Jan 152016
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- NZ23L1 ‘completeness stage’ CONSTRUCTING…
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O18FT1: Thoug I developed these rules independently, ‘Johnny Mercer‘s 1944
song ‘Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive’ had the start of the idea here in its lyrics
‘Eliminate the negative ..’-
O108YK ‘‘minimize ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’ :NIDF7K’ :NIDF50’
- O104ON “avoid-including-minimize surprises especially unpleasant”
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- NYMMA7 ‘remaining sections’ ‘definition’ + ‘post history additional’ + ‘comments’
- NYM1YV ‘definition’: ‘‘definition in ‘NOLDef’ of concept’s’ (else in ‘NOLDef’ to-be)
- ‘remaining sections’
- O18G6X: compared to ‘’
- O10G8O: ‘-’ ‘‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’’
- O11W4V: ‘completeness stage’ ‘1st draft ~50% complete :O11W8C’
- O11ZVW: ‘‘definition’ ‘anew’’
- O10G93: come from, from roughly most problematic,
- O15UJ0: lack of respect/consideration shown especially to others
- O15UG6: due to 1 or more:
- O15V0T: selfishness, especially “people are readily socially disposible” as is typically & increasingly commonplace in higher {populated and/or web-“connected”} areas
- O15V1H: ignorance
- O15V1T: occassionaly stupidity
- O10IO4: specifically a change typically quickly seen as as positive for the doer (such as quit or and/or skip a group/activity) so which is done but which is negative to especially others in ways doer didn’t appropriate accomodate for
- O10G9M: more specifically, deciding for, especially doing/allowing, a {change or something} {potentially unplesant/negative especially for others}…
- O10GE2: …without doing ‘significantly & solidly ‘{reduce ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’} :O11YW3’ :O15YRJ’
- O10J33: including from sources, from typically most problematic IMHO
- O10J3H: quitting else reducing participation/attendance in an {agreed, including implicity agreed} activity, relationship, or/and group
- O10J7G: removing, as deleting, else reducing-access-to, content or other resources by/from {anyone except perhaps oneself}
- O10K5M: allowing & especially enabling/encouraging belief of hearsay/gossip, especially negative about creature(s)
- O10J9S: otherwise inflicting hurt on others or/and oneself
- O15UPV: often because its typically quickly seen as positive for the doer
- O15UG6: due to 1 or more:
- O10KYZ: negative acts of nature beyond our present control, especially unwarned & unpredictable
- O15UJ0: lack of respect/consideration shown especially to others
- ‘per def’
- ‘same or similar’ ‘sub’
- -1 ‘1’
- 0
- ‘Wikipedia’
- O11YV0: ‘maker’ original
- 1 ‘1’
- ‘unique pros thru cons’
- ‘same or similar’ ‘sub’
- O11WI2: ‘name anew’ :O11WI2
- O18DC7: ‘‘motivation or source or change’ ‘in reverse start order’’
- O18DDB: in fewest practical words, create an English {description so filter} of human behavior that I’ve seen…
- O18C9Z: ‘changes possibly {negative or unexpected or ungradual}’
- O18CNT: compared to O165NB, ‘fast’ replacement ‘ungradual’
- O165NB: ‘changes possibly {negative or unexpected or quick}’ :O165NB
- O18C22: ‘changes possibly not {positive & expected & gradual}’
- O18CFU: compared to O165NB, notable pros thru cons
- O18C9K: ‘quick’ replacement ‘not gradual’
- O18CG6: ‘negative’ replacement ‘not positive’
- O18CHP: more comprensive –a maybe small pro
- O18CJK: more words, so including a bit more to use it to ‘spot’ the problems
- O18E9N: most notably, it seems it would regularly lead to comclusions such as ‘Well stealing is positive… for me’ so enable forgetting/ignoring (the act being NOT positive) ‘‘for some creatures/persons involved’ :O18DY2’
- O18CLB: gives a misleading suggestion that all good things must be ‘positive & exected & gradual’
- O18CFU: compared to O165NB, notable pros thru cons
- O166XM: informally ‘drama’
- O167EP: …as defined not-exactly but best at urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=drama (chosen from among the first ~7 entries of google.com/search?q=define+”drama”)
- O1690Z: but, as with O165G0 but not quite as bad, many if not most people today mis-react emotionally if not also intellectually that {saying something negative will practically avoidably create bad so ‘drama’}, but we want negatives being appropriately shared, so in general {spell it out, so O165NB}
- O16069: canceled: ‘unplesantness’ :O16069
- O165G0: –but many/most do {{telling why if negative, what we really want all to do} is unplesant to hear so say, so then don’t say it}, so this readily backfires, so over simplified, Lucy now points out. :O165G0
- O127GJ: ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’ :O127GJ
- O127LJ: ‘rendering anew’ ‘‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’’
- O127HB: where ‘especially sudden’ just added as there regularly exists {unpleasant changes which are sudden but not surprises} and that is still regularly in-between in increasing worseness
- O11WZZ: ‘unpleasant changes especially surprises’
- O11YN9: ‘rendering anew’ ‘‘unpleasant changes especially surprises’’
- O11X2V: where ‘especially’ ‘compared to’ ‘including’
- O11X7L: ‘notable pros thru cons’
- O11YHJ: ~12 hr ago, add ‘[unplesant] changes’ because the goal to reduce ideally minimize…
- O11YJY: results out of corrective work per ‘something better instead ..:O10GFL’
- O11YJC: applies to them as well
- O10AVM ‘unpleasant surprises’ as
- O10AZH a ‘pleasant surprise’ appears never bad provided it doesn’t lead to ‘unpleasant surprises’ which is still covered against.
- O11WWX: ‘surprises especially unpleasant’ from & at NIE5C0
- O11WQH: see ‘surprises especially big & unpleasant :NIDF6X’
- O18DC7: ‘‘motivation or source or change’ ‘in reverse start order’’
- ‘remaining sections’
- O11YW3: ‘-’ reduction aka {reduce ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’} :O11YW3
- ‘completeness stage’
- O11ZQG: ‘‘definition’ ‘anew’’
- O11ZR4: says what it means
- NIE5IA exceptions are small:
- O11Z6U: ‘‘motivation or source or change’ ‘in reverse start order’’
- ‘per def’
- ‘remaining sections’
- NIDFZ8 means to accomplish this :NIDFZ8
- NIDGK5 aside: do all of them
- NIDG0T include from roughly biggest:
- NIDGEO follow due-process especially before doing anything possibly negative
- O15TZ1: do plans, decisions, & changes via group (as group planning) including collectively & collaboratively
- O15TXU: including ensure all those affected are appropriately involved, which includes, to the degree possible,
- O10GDK: substantially beforehand, else during, else soon after
- O10JD1: they…
- O10IHF: knowing what might-be else was changed when and by who
- O10GEU: knowing why
- O10GFL: having reasonable opportunity to search for & work out something better instead, ideally collaboratively :O10GFL
- O15VM9: similary, for every decision, do good group decision making to the degree practical especially to degree it {potentially affects especially others especially negatively}.
- O15TXU: including ensure all those affected are appropriately involved, which includes, to the degree possible,
- O15V7U: be considerate, notably “put yourself in others’ shoes”, especially before deciding/changing, then act accordingly –so to know how to be & be respectful
- O123XW: build predictability
- NIDGTV as that then there enables reliablity –as one can’t rely on something/someone one can’t predict
- O1244L: by notably, from biggest first :O1244L
- NIDGQ1 starting foremost with yourself: be predictable
- NIE75D by notably, from biggest first:
- NIE6YQ do as expected within reason, including:
- NIDG6S “..do as expected-especially-asked else well-tell where & why not”
- NIDGBC Keep promises else well make amends.
- NIDG9R Promise Less, Deliver More.
- NIDGR8 well-tell problems
- O15YRJ: significantly & solidly ‘{reduce ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’} :O11YW3’ :O15YRJ
- O15Z6H: notable pros thru cons :O15Z6H
- NIE8R5 we need to get along (as Rodney King famously pleaded 🙂
- NIE8PT this article has figured out significant & core portions, especially enough to get one started.
- O15Z79: –netural
- NIE89C The mis-belief “I will be boring & uninteresting”. No, you will be fascinating..
- NIE8CQ bad thinking {Why go to all that work, when I can just do it myself immediately?}
- O15ZC5: hard as humans which are notably most complex entity we know.
- O15ZGW: ‘‘section history additional’ ‘in reverse start order’:’
- NIE82E Not doing this
- NIDF7K minimization aka {minimize ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’} :NIDF7K
- NIAQC1 …a key goal for every entity, including every person or entity (as software or service or device operating) created by an entity,…
- NIDEQD so let’s strive for us all to do it well!
- O109U1 ‘completeness stage’
- O109UE very rough 1st draft
- O123EV: ‘‘definition’ ‘anew’’
- O123F6: as much as possible, ‘reduce ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’ :O11YW3’
- NIDFAX –this seems extremely key but typically not taught, so needs to be written & popularized, as:
- NIDFYB this point I have developed elsewhere:
- NIDG1G to be merged into this post
- NIDG2B from most recent:
- O10980 ‘‘anti-surprise’: Surprises, especially unpleasant ones, are to be avoided else minimized.’
- NIDG4O quote(Be predictable: no surprises unless pleasant ones.) in Universal Guidelines
- NIE8Y8 likely others
- NIDF6A ‘name anew’
- O15Y9L: ‘rendering anew’ ‘‘minimize unpleasant surprises’’ –starting ~#O108YK & ending now.
- O108P9 ‘avoid-including-minimize’ ‘replacement’ ‘minimize’ as
- NIF751 now: —cutting exception reference and add hyphenation
- NIE5C0 now until next: main title line, “With small exceptions, avoid including minimize surprises especially unpleasant” –cutting “big & ” as that is already implied by “minimize” and adding the exceptions. :NIE5C0
- NIDF6X now until next: main title line of “avoid including minimize surprises especially big & unpleasant” :NIDF6X
- O0YO78 ‘-’ ‘‘minimize unplesantness deposit’’
- ‘replacement’
- O0YOM5 ‘completeness stage’
- O10BNQ planned:
- O10BIX up to 1/2 to be forfeit to degree correction not done before event/delivery time.
- O103JD generalization to “avoid-including-minimize surprises especially unpleasant”
- O0YOMK basically conceived and now formally drafting
- O10BNQ planned:
- ‘usage’
- O0YOAS ‘name anew’
- O1284G: ‘minimize unplesantness deposit’
- O160IL: ‘rendering anew’ ‘‘minimize unplesantness deposit’’
- O160AL: where ‘minimize unplesantness’ is referring to ‘minimize ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’ :NIDF7K’
- O0YOBJ ‘absence/stop reason deposit’
- O1284G: ‘minimize unplesantness deposit’
- O0YOHJ ‘‘definition’ ‘anew’’
- O0Z2QW a deposit added-to & collected-with the normal attendance fee
- O0Z8ZH normally the same amount as, else, near to, else proportionate to, the attendance fee
- O0Z35S is returned once …
- O1286P: & {to the degree} event hosts clearly see the attendee ‘reduce[d] ‘unpleasant changes especially sudden especially surprises’ :O11YW3’
- O0Z36H (to be updated) roughly speaking, the attendee has effectively explained & discussed with the event hosts why s/he will be more-absent/less-participating including has made reasonable attempt to avoid that
- O0Z32M (to be updated) specifically, the event hosts clearly know…
- O0Z75Q (so) by situation which does NOT require event like your reasons, but must confidentially know & understand them.
- O1281T: is not to be used to cover {normal specifically readily-predicatable} wear-and-tear
- O128OQ: –analogous to {for a standard rental deposit} & {in a standard warrantee}
- O128T0: including notably per (the deposit covering) {‘especially surprises’, 1st introduced at NIDF6X}
- O128Q0: instead such wear-and-tear should be covered by the normal fees as the attendance/use fees.
- O0Z77I ‘‘motivation or source or change’ ‘in reverse start order’’
- O10AGD “straw which broke the camel’s back” causing me to finally create this write-up: /3593#O0YNDX
- O0Z77R high, as so far (without this), attendees
- O0Z7AW which have been
- O0Z78T to this & on all other (Meetup) groups we’ve seen
- O0Z7Y3 do not reliably repeat attend (unless event hosts), say ‘Where everybody knows your name’ (quoting our RSVP policy, and the Cheers song) or even most/many people
- O0Z8BH indeed in most Meetup events (not run by us) even the event hosts don’t know most attendees by name.
- O0Z80A which is tolerable for {“cattle” events as mere presentations, as O04NZ9, and base entertainment}
- O0Z84C but is very bad really intolerable for intimate meetings, as SimulSquad detailed at O04PBO
- O0Z7DT tell their reason for not attending or leaving literally…
- O0Z7F6 never when it could be used to do something to improve
- O0Z7IN almost never before already taking negative action
- O0Z7H7 only when there is nothing possibly controversial about it, as ‘I’m moving out of your service coverage area’
- O0Z7LM typically without warning nor any, else any usable, usable explanation.
- O0Z928 ‘per def’
- O0Z92G the more an attendee attends, the proportionately more such deposit s/he builds up.
- ‘same or similar’ ‘sub’
- O0Z8DC ‘compared to’ the norm of not having any clear economic incentive to do this, ‘notable pros thru cons’
- O0Z8OJ compared to {persuasive words, notably :NYRWHL}, it is expected to be a potentially a lot more effective as
- O0Z8FP expected to get some, instead of 0, feedback needed for real improvement
- O0Z8JG Yes, some will say ‘I can’t be bothered’ and just trash their deposit, but by setting the deposit amount high enough, I expect some will do the respectful thing.
- O0Z8LR expected to get some, instead of instead of seemingly 0, to try to make things work instead of run whenever they feel they have a problem or just casually forget/neglect the earlier investment made in them.
- O0ZED0 –pro (above) vs. con (below) division line–
- O0ZEB3 totally novel: never heard of it or anything similar done (so likely cause for resistance)
- O103CX ‘so post category’
- O0ZDW0 ‘‘‘Pretty Link’ entry’ ‘anew’’ section 1st
- O109KQ ‘display place’
- O109N1 now ‘means to accomplish this :NIDFZ8’ per #O10A9C
- O109L0 originally in /5344#O0YO40 in ‘definition’
- ‘remaining sections’
- [sub custom another]
- event series
- NIDF2E post categories
- O18FLT: ‘‘section history additional’ ‘in reverse start order’:’
- O18FIG: doing a 1st line of ‘[youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GLz5OjosOo&align=right ]’ (per https://en.support.wordpress.com/videos/youtube/#embedding-with-a-url ) was just ignored by WP
- NIAQC1 …a key goal for every entity, including every person or entity (as software or service or device operating) created by an entity,…
- O15Z6H: notable pros thru cons :O15Z6H
- ‘‘section history additional’ ‘in reverse start order’:’
- O11W80: ‘‘section history additional’ ‘in reverse start order’:’
- O11W8C: 1st draft ~50% complete :O11W8C
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- (for this post) my ‘motivation’ (and, TBA, its achievement)
- ‘success of this’
- NZ3KAG ‘annex’
- NYWZWX ‘so post category’
- NYM1ZP ‘post history additional’: ‘‘post history additional’ ‘in reverse start order’:’
- O10BLO ‘{post.status.snapshot{;date ’2016.01.15Fri1043pst‘;after ID ’minutes 9‘;revision ’17‘;version ’2‘;words ’1534‘;as ’about to make notable rewrites as #O10BNQ‘;do ’NY0WO6 with 140 replacements then Publish 1 then continue editing‘}}’
- O109I1 seeing this is the only post on 1.JotHere.com exclusively on {surprises especially unpleasant}, merge the other content into here, including:
- O1044P ‘{post.status.snapshot: date ’2016.01.15Fri10753pst‘;after ID’ minutes 0‘;revision ’17‘;version ’2‘;words ’657‘ ;as ’seeing this post lacks standard post formatting’; do ’following NXBIBI with {{template plus no source text} last {addition if known else history entry} /5344#O103JD (post 1st-latest and unrelated), create rather update {this ‘document’ http://1.JotHere.com/4476#NIDF50}‘}’.
- NIFD0E 1st trial of NIFB8G here at “<sup><a id=”NIDF7K” class=”aself_KEP2FG”></a>NIDF7K:</sup> <strong>“avoid-including-minimize surprises especially unpleasant” </strong><ul>”
- NIF6RA: edit more including add 1st trial of “<ul class=”KMW3VO”> <strong> title</strong>”: draft 3
- NIE925 completed significant updates & additions including “With small exceptions” and new title; some more work to do including title edits to be less featured but still near; ~90% complete, draft 2
- NIDHT4 ~80% complete draft, saving for safety, draft 1
- NIDF0X post history in order:
- O1058U now converted to ‘post history additional’ (in reverse start order)
- NIDEZH per NICPRC, just now created this via copy to a new draft then updated IDs & text to fit.
- NYMK00 comments next & elsewhere, per reply instructions.